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04-02-2008 at 1:27 PM
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Does your family kiss on the mouth?

Sooooo, my DH's family are mouth kissers, especially his mom.  I so didn't come from that kind of family - we're not very physically affectionate and you're lucky if you got a hug.  For the most part I've been able to duck my MIL (hugging her, or kiss on the cheek) but last night after dinner with his fam she planted one on me.  I'm sorry but it feels weird and a little creepy!!  Is this normal for family member to do??   I felt dirty afterwards!!  :(
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DH's family does, and it freaks.me.out.  This resulted in total awkwardness when DH's stepdad did this to me and I kind of dodged because I didn't know what to do.  I don't know that I think it's creepy but it makes me so uncomfortable :(  Fortunately, I think they now know it's not for me and just kiss my cheek.  No-one in my family even really kisses cheeks, but I'm getting over my fear :)
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I think it's bad enough that DH's family are big huggers, think like Full House style hugging all the time.  If they started kissing too I might have to run away.

 
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I can understand your discomfort if you didn't come from that type of family.  DH's family is less affectionate than mine and rarely kisses at all save the cheek once in awhile.

As for my family, well I am proud to report that we are mouth kissers.  I kiss both my mom, dad, grandparents, and aunts, on the mouth and sometimes my brother or sister.  I think I've even seen my brother kiss my dad on the mouth.  I dunno....I think it's kind of endearing.  But hey, to each their own.  I totally get how that can seem odd to some people.  One note:  the mouth kissing doesn't extend beyond immediate and semi-immediate family.

My DH is totally uncomfortable with even doing cheek kisses on other women besides me and his mom.

In other countries it's not uncommon to see men kissing each other in totally heterosexual ways or even holding hands.  Crazy.
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my mom and I do. I never really thought about it till our wedding photographer caught us at this moment. I realized it was kinda creepy but its something special I guess between my mom and I. She would never dream of kissing a non-blood family memeber like that!





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I know it's really common in European countries.  When I'm there, it makes me feel closer to them.  Not in a creepy way, just in a warm, welcomed sorta way.  I don't get offended by it at all.  Unless the person is sick; keep your sickies to yourself, please!
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we are huggers and cheek kissers.



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04-02-2008 at 2:14 PM
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Anybody come from a butt grabbing/slapping family? lol
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If my MIL grabs my butt, I'm outta there...

When my sisters and I were growing up my mom would grab our boobs sometimes and say in Korean how big we were getting.  I'm still disturbed to this day.  It reminds me of that scene in "16 Candles" when Molly Ringwald says, "I can't believe my grandmother actually felt me up".  :(
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We're huggers.  Once in awhile my mom & I will kiss on the cheek, but not often.  DH's family is cheek kissers.  That took a little while to get used to, but that doesn't weird me out.  If they were mouth kissers, that probably would. 



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04-02-2008 at 2:26 PM
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In a very special moment, I might have kissed my mom or step-mom ala the picture that Dawnna posted...

But in general, we are very affectionate cheek kissers and huggers - big huggers!


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Around puberty, one of my aunts would always poke us in the boobs and say "dingdong doorbell".  Again, traumatizing and embarassing...but kind of funny.  Although i dont recommend it.  It's hard enough being an ackward pre-teen.  However, now that I'm grown I've now turned the tables and I do this to her every now and then...she hates it.
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we're huggers, i don't dig on the mouth kissing.  if my fil kissed me on the mouth, i'd prob punch him...lol.



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04-02-2008 at 3:10 PM
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Both mine and DH's families are just huggers.  But my dear friend married into a super touchy feely family as I discovered when I was in her wedding.  The boys and the dad are "family jewels grabbers!"  It's like a competition to them.  Yikes!

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Yes... but I don't. Once I grew up it creeped me out.

Strangely though, we're not a close family at all, or affectionate.




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