The Nest

I've been both a full time working mom and a stay at home mom. I dont look down upon either. To each's own!

LOL considering how many working moms frequent this board I'd like to see someone admit that they "look down" on us!

I doubt that anyone here would answer honestly if they did.  But, my answer is a resounding "hell no".  I plan to be a working mom more out of choice than necessity.  But, it is a "necessity" to me- maybe not monetarily, but for my own sanity.  I keep hearing how a happy mom makes a happy baby, and I feel like I am not cut-out to be a SAHM.  Nothing wrong with people who are- more power to them.  I'm just not one of them.

Not one bit! Just because it's not something I would necessarily do doesn't make it wrong in any way.  Whatever the reasoning, that's a very personal choice, and it's none of my business what someone else wants to do with their life.  If a friend of mine has made the choice to work full time and be a mom, and they're happy, then more power to them!

To each their own - whatever works for each woman and their family.

This board is pretty evenly split between SAHMs and working moms - do you really think someone would say that she looked down on the other?! I'm sure some people do, both ways, but I would drop if someone actually said, "Working moms are irresponsible and selfish," or "SAHMs are lazy and unmotivated," or whatever.

Absolutely not.  Working moms rock.  I don't know how they do it - it makes me proud, because I personally don't think that most men could handle it all.

I don't want to be a SAHM - my ideal situation would be to work part time or own yoga & spin studio where I would have flexibility to be with my child.

I choose to be a working Mom. I know there are people that look down on me including most of my family.

its not working women I loathe but the woman who palms her kids off at mommy and me with a nanny or the working mom who is too busy to do anything with her kid whether is work or her own agenda.

I know alot of working moms who balance things and can be good at both and some who work til they drop and ignore their kids (those are the ones I am not thrilled with.) The ones constantly on the phone or blackberry or home office ignoring her kids. I know some of them too. I want to be one of the ones who could balance it all, which is a stretch I admit

 

No. Everyone has to make the decision that's best for their family. I don't look down on anyone that makes a decision like that.

I was REALLY surprised yesterday to see just how many women on here DO look down on working moms.

no, but to be devils advocate (and I am posting and running on this one- not going to enter into debate) there were may women who said they thought Palin running for VP was inappropriate given her children...in that discussion there seemed to be degrees of working that were acceptable, but not any kind of working mom was acceptable.

Ha...guess that seems a little obvious to the rest of you ladies.  I'm a little new to the board.  Honestly, I was kind of surprised by the "women I loathe" phrase (not meaning to judge).  Wasn't sure what the tone of this board generally is like. 

attybride2:

S/O to one of the posts below.  Particularly those you see as "choosing to" v. "having to" (the latter half seems too obvious). 

Personally, I don't think I could ever even go part time at my job.  Just curious because of the title "becoming one of those women I loathe" below.  Wondering if others will see me as someone they "loathe" in a few years!  lol

As previous posters stated, no one looks down at one or the other, or at least I would hope not.  But never say never, having a baby changes things, for some people a little bit for others, a lot more.

ceetee:

no, but to be devils advocate (and I am posting and running on this one- not going to enter into debate) there were may women who said they thought Palin running for VP was inappropriate given her children...in that discussion there seemed to be degrees of working that were acceptable, but not any kind of working mom was acceptable.

 

TRUE. Wonder if that poster intends to defend...

I'm somewhat surprised at the attitudes of people "looking down" on others for their choices.  

I think some women are great mothers but still need to be active in their careers. Others are great people but find fufillment staying at home. I know I'd LOVE to be a SAHM but when I do finally become a mom, we wouldn't be able to LIVE without me working. And I'd probably be upset to know someone is "looking down" at me for my actions.

considering I am a working mom, my answer will be HELL NO!!  I highly doubt anyone would actually admit even if they did..talk about a flame worthy topic!

I am actually a little jealous of SAHM.  The reason being that they get to spend all of that special one-on-one time with their kids.  I would love to do it but unfortunately, financially, it's just not possible.

BenJen - noted. I just don't see it helping with my "ex-wife" Sallie Mae who keeps taking all my money!!!! 

 Kelly - clearer to me now.  Sorry if I suggested anything bad.

To be honest...before having a child yes I did. I didn't understand it by any means, but then again, the examples of working moms I had around me I think just were't meant to be moms in general. They say that themselves and their kids don't like them (my cousins don't talk to their mom). So in a way I think I was sheltered growing up in a home w/a SAHM, I couldn't imagine it any other way, blah blah blah. That's how all my friends were too.

NOW, w/a child, and having done school fulltime for his entire life, I needed that break to be "me." I adore being a mother, I really do, but I now understand working moms. Some moms are great at being home, and some moms are great at working and being a mom. For me it's about finding out which I am better at. I truly admire working moms now and kick myself for ever viewing it otherwise.

I doubt anyone would respond yes to this question but I guess you never know.  I respect all moms - working or stay at home.  It's all hard work to me. 

AmyRob04:

ceetee:

no, but to be devils advocate (and I am posting and running on this one- not going to enter into debate) there were may women who said they thought Palin running for VP was inappropriate given her children...in that discussion there seemed to be degrees of working that were acceptable, but not any kind of working mom was acceptable.

 

TRUE. Wonder if that poster intends to defend...

Of course there will be some crazy answer like "none of us are running for VP, blah blah blah."