I'm just getting really tired of her "Waaaahhh!!! My ILs are horrible and my FI won't stand up to them. What should I do?"
Stupid, you know exactly what you should do if you don't want to put up with this. He doesn't see the problem, doesn't look like he ever will, so if you want to marry this guy, this is what you get. If you don't want that lifestyle, find another guy whose cord has been cut.