Everybody is different -- indeed the bc may be causing your loss of libido.

Speak to your doctor; he can change your prescription; would you also consider something like the diaphragm?

I would not wait until May to speak to a doc about this. it's fixable.:) good luck.

If you are concerned, I would talk to you doctor soon about it. Alot of woman, as you see from your responses, have had to switch BC. I have been on orthro tri-cyclen for 12 years and have had no problems at all.
Another thought is that it might be all the changes in your life affecting your sex drive. If a new bc doesnt work, try to do some meditation and think about what really turns you on or gets you in the mood. Good luck. : )

I think that considering that you were a virgin before starting birth control, you really can't say that the pill is affecting your sex drive........I don't think that you really have any clue what kind of sex drive you have.

Sure, you wanted sex and thought about it more before you were married.......because it was the forbidden fruit, something that you had built up in your head to be this wonderfully amazing experience. 

Then you actually had sex, it wasn't what you expected, and now that reality didn't meet your expectations you think about it/crave it less.  I doubt that getting off birth control pills will help you at all - you'll still be disappointed for awhile with sex, and you'll also be hyper worried about getting pregnant accidentally (I'm assuming that you went on birth control because you're not ready for a child yet)......that fear will certainly make it harder to get in the mood for sex.

Call you GYN and tell them your concerns, and ask about trying a different pill.  Everyone reacts to every pill differently, and maybe this one isn't right for you.  But don't discredit the idea that you just have to keep practicing at sex.....the more you practice, the better it will feel......and the better it feels, the more you'll want it.  And if you don't already, start masturbating.  If you don't know and understand your own body and what makes you feel good, it's going to be that much harder for your DH to know these things. 

Maybride2:

I think that considering that you were a virgin before starting birth control, you really can't say that the pill is affecting your sex drive........I don't think that you really have any clue what kind of sex drive you have.

Sure, you wanted sex and thought about it more before you were married.......because it was the forbidden fruit, something that you had built up in your head to be this wonderfully amazing experience. 

While I normally agree with Maybride on most things, I respectfully disagree with this statement. I was a virgin before I married, went on BCP about 2 months before my wedding and went from being horny to nothing at all over the course of about 3 months. I pretty much had no opinion about anything that I was attracted to at the end and it was horrible! The final blow was when we were having sex and I felt absolutely NOTHING emotionally. I finished up my pack and stopped. I saw almost immediate results- it was wonderful. My friend, who was also a virgin, went through the exact same thing as me.

There's a difference in being horny and being anxious about sex. You can still be attracted to your H and not be horny, and, at least in my case, the BCP were the cause of me not even finding an attraction for my H where there had previously been a ton. The OP should know what she feels like when she's stressed and around her H and NOT on BCP.

Like PPs above, we are using condoms now, but my friend has done well with changing brands. GL!

My DH and I were both virgins as well before getting married so I have a couple of thoughts, mostly tweaking what's already been brought up.

 1) There is no harm in going ahead and scheduling an earlier appt to talk to your GYN.  You will probably feel relieved to hear what she has to say about it.

2) Between now and your appt, work on how you think about sex and how openly you talk to your DH.  I tried to prepare myself before the wedding night, but I still thought I would naturally be more aroused or excited about sex and that the act itself would come more naturally and we would just figure out what feels good.  Nope!  haha.  Talk about it a lot, what works and what doesn't.  As the woman, you really have to get in your head and MAKE yourself excited about your man.  Not because you aren't attracted to him, but we work differently and a lot of women need more prep time and more mental self-talk to get going.  Nothing wrong with that, it's just different that the picture that is normally presented about sex where all of a sudden both people are in the mood and they go at it and rip at each other and everything works perfectly and there are fireworks.  Start thinking about sex in the afternoon and what you want to do and what you like about your DH so that by the time the evening roles around you are anticipating it.  Don't be afraid to tell your DH specifics of what he does that feels good for you, even if it's still in foreplay, and ask him to focus on it for a while.  Guys are turned on when they know they are pleasing you, so you aren't being selfish.  Anyway, I will keep going for days if I don't stop.  I understand your frustration and there is nothing wrong with you.  Check on the medical part of it and warm up to really working on the mental part of it and opening up to your DH.

GL!  PM me if you want.

Carly 

It's human nature, the attraction of the forbidden. No sex before marriage is similar to no alcohol until 19.

  After you turn 19 and have few episodes of drunken debauchery. The novelty and desire wears off.

  Also it could be disappointment.Many virgins marry thinking their reward for keeping their pants on, is going to be "unlimited totally amazing orgasms" after they get legal via marriage. 

  When the "unlimited totally amazing orgasms " don't occur........................