Thanks for the feedback.
let me clear a couple things up...
A hunting widow is a term that alot of hunters call their wives during hunting season.. it doesnt actually mean I'm a widow, sorry I didnt clarify that, It's just something that old men conjured up to call their wives because they leave so much during the season.
sorry about the no-paragraphs thing, It was just a rant and I just kept typing.
Before we were married we dated for 5 years, in those years, he only went on 3 hunting trips, we lived in a different state, were in college, and he didnt have the interest that he has now. when we moved to Idaho it was like this whole new opportunity to hunt every season, for cheaper than in Washington, and he doesnt have to declare rifle or archery here like he did there, so he just went a little hunt-crazy.
It didnt get bad until last year, then this year he said he wouldnt be gone as much, but it's turning out to be almost the same. he did sell his rifle, so he wont be hunting with rifle, just archery, which is better, it just seems like it's soo much time!
I know I shouldnt have to change who I am, and he does show interest in some of the things I like to do, but hunting is a hobby I cant compete with, so it's hard to feel like it's equal all the time.
I have talked to my MIL about it, his dad was huge into hunting when he was little (he went on a week long hunt when my DH was only 3 weeks old...) she said that with him, after the boys were born, he stopped going as much. and he has said that when we do have kids he'll definately not go as much. we do use the meat that he brings home, I love venison and love the healthy benefits of deer meat, i just wish he would take the first or 2nd deer he sees instead of waiting for the biggest and the best.
I shouldnt have been so harsh, he really is a great husband and a wonderful man, yes the hunting obsession is hard on me now, we are still newlyweds, but i'm sure I just need to get used to his hobby, and hopefully i'll be able to find things to do to keep me occupied while he is gone. I'm not taking back my frusturations, I just dont want this one thing to make you ladies think my husband is this horrible monster for enjoying hunting. It does just get old and I get lonely, thats the hardest part. I also worry about some freak hunting accident that could happen, even though he reassures me he is always safe and smart, the people he goes with are the ones I get nervous about. He does need to compromise more, I'll talk to him about that, we've talked about it before, we just havent come up with great solutions, like a date night together for every weekend he is gone, it's little but it does help. I'll talk to him when he gets home tonight and post an update soon. thanks again!