I don't have any really good ones.  But I did have to wear rose pink pointy-toed Franco Sarto croc leather mules, with a matching rose pink lace dress, for one wedding.

That was kind of brutal.  The shoes were cute enough, but impossible to wear, and impossible to match ANYTHING else to later on.  Because clearly I was not wearing that dress again. 

I was in a wedding where the bride forbid us to wear open toe shoes b/c she doesn't like how feet look and didn't want a bunch of toes sticking out in her pics.  I don't think one of us had a pair of dressy black closed toe shoes so we all had to buy new ones (guess it's not too bad, at least we didn't have to buy dyed shoes).   But, we all had floor length dresses on.  :shrug:

Mine is my SIL who wanted a childfree reception at a place that's about 2 hours from where we live. Fine. But then she also wanted my neice and nephew to be her flower girl and ringbearer. And she actually expected my other SIL to drive her children home from the ceremony (a 2 hour drive) and then come back to the reception! She was a diva about everything else too but that really took the cake. Needless to say, no one in the family took this request of her's seriously.

Nope. I haven't been in many weddings, and all the brides were lovely.

I had a MOH-zilla. The bride had picked out 2 different dresses for us to settle on. She even gave us the style #s and told us where we could look at them in person. Her MOH called her from across the country and said she found "something similar" at a bridal warehouse where she lived, and that the bride should get them while they lasted (the bride, wonderful woman she was, bought our BM dresses). When they came, they were awful. Horrible neckline, appliqued fluff around the neck, butt bow, poofy sleeves, 4 sizes too large, you name it. I looked like a pinhead in it. The bride apologized profusely, and I assured her that no one would be looking at me on her wedding day.

My ex-best friend stopped speaking to me (permanently) when I couldn't attend her destination wedding.  She only planned the date for the wedding only six weeks in advance, and I had a final exam that day.  Apparently I was the bad friend for being unwilling to fail out of law school for her last minute wedding.

My friend got married this summer in JULY... outside. The weather was over 100 degrees but we weren't allowed to mention that it was hot as balls because she was so hypersensitive. It was awful.

A couple of years ago, I went to a bridal shower where the bride threw a fit when she opened a gift containing green towels.  Apparently, she had registered for blue ones and was not happy.  She went as far as calling out the person in front of nearly 100 guests!  The kicker? She didn't even send thank you notes to any of the guests!

My cousin (one of 6 girls on my mom's side) got engaged around Thanksgiving 2008. Set a date in Sept 2010. We got engaged in January 2009 and decided to get married Sept 6, 2009 (Labor Day weekend)

Literally as I was driving over to put down a deposit on our reception venue, my mom called and told my my cousin had switched her date to Sept 5, 2009 - the day before mine. Which is a hassle, but not that big of a deal except she lives 2 hours from our families and I live 4 hours from her. So essentially we'd have 2 weddings in 2 days that were 4 hours apart from each other. My family would not be there for a rehearsal dinner for me and it would require my almost 80 year old grandparents to drive all over the midwest all weekend.

She was having the wedding at her home, mine was in an upscale venue that ONLY had that date available at that price. There was no other date that would allow us to get married within our budget at the place we wanted, and there is a really limited number places like that around here. I emailed her to see what was up with the sudden date change - since we actually decided to get married in Sept 2009 partly BECAUSE her wedding was a whole year after that - and ask her if there was another date that would work for her since ours really couldn't be changed without throwing off ALL our plans. She emailed me back and basically told me I stole her date since she had already selected Labor Day weekend as HER wedding date (no matter that she had picked that weekend another YEAR) and she felt it was important to get married that weekend because her parents got married that weekend.

Her parents had a HORRIBLE divorce and her mom went off the deep end and they dont' even really talk...

Anyway, she did end up changing her date because the date didnt' work for her groom's father. But she was a total snot about it and obviously didn't care that I couldn't come to her wedding, neither could my sisters or parents, and she was totally inconveniencing the rest of our family - all because she switched her date after one had already been set.

Neither of us went to the others' wedding - she was on her honeymoon for mine and her wedding was the weekend before mine and it was too hectic to be out of town.

njrunr3:

A couple of years ago, I went to a bridal shower where the bride threw a fit when she opened a gift containing green towels.  Apparently, she had registered for blue ones and was not happy.  She went as far as calling out the person in front of nearly 100 guests!  The kicker? She didn't even send thank you notes to any of the guests!

wait, wait, wait. Who has 100 guests at a bridal shower?!?! We don't even have that many guests for our wedding!

Lilac022:

njrunr3:

A couple of years ago, I went to a bridal shower where the bride threw a fit when she opened a gift containing green towels.  Apparently, she had registered for blue ones and was not happy.  She went as far as calling out the person in front of nearly 100 guests!  The kicker? She didn't even send thank you notes to any of the guests!

wait, wait, wait. Who has 100 guests at a bridal shower?!?! We don't even have that many guests for our wedding!

Yea, we didn't have that many at our wedding either!  But, at least half the people that were invited to the shower were not invited to the wedding.  

At the substantial risk of outing myself on this board, a dear friend of mine insisted that everyone in the wedding party dress themselves based on their "cultural heritage."  To this day, I don't know where to start with that one.

I have an auntzilla story.

My aunt got all bent out of shape that I didn't ask her permission to have one of my uncles give me away. My dad passed on 3 years before I got married. I asked his favorite brother if he would do the honor (this uncle and I are also very close). My aunt had a cow because since she is the "matron of the family" she should get to approve who does or doesn't give me away. She called all of her side of the family and tried to convince everyone else not to go to the wedding because of it.

Uh. .....k?

njrunr3:

Lilac022:

njrunr3:

A couple of years ago, I went to a bridal shower where the bride threw a fit when she opened a gift containing green towels.  Apparently, she had registered for blue ones and was not happy.  She went as far as calling out the person in front of nearly 100 guests!  The kicker? She didn't even send thank you notes to any of the guests!

wait, wait, wait. Who has 100 guests at a bridal shower?!?! We don't even have that many guests for our wedding!

Yea, we didn't have that many at our wedding either!  But, at least half the people that were invited to the shower were not invited to the wedding.  

I am ashamed to admit I had almost 200 people to my shower and over 600 at my wedding. Our families live in the same small town where everyone knows everyone and I am the only girl so my parents went crazy with the guest list. It was a circus!

apparently I was bridezilla...in fact my BM skipped that term and told me i was  straight up biotch...I won't own any of it, none of it seemed that bad to me...in fact, with all those situations, they were pretty much acting like punk-a$s bridesmaids.

One of my dearest friends from H.S. was a bridezilla.  She lost her *** getting her hair done and she cried because she didn't like it.  Come to find out, years later, she almost called off her wedding, she knew he was the wrong guy to marry but she felt too ashamed to cancel it.  So sad.  She has a baby with this guy and another on the way and she said she'll never divorce him.  She said she's miserable in her marriage. 

Even though she has a lot going on, I love her, she's been my friend over 20 years and I hope she divorces this guy and gets happy--but she's got to learn that herself.   I think a lot of bridezillas are unhappy brides.

 

 

One friend managed to leave her veil 45 minutes away and insisted someone get it. It ended up working out though. That's really the worst. For another wedding the hair dresser gave me the most awful crazy hairstyle but that wasn't the bride's fault other than she picked the stylist. I made if look okay before the wedding. My only real regret is I didn't have someone take a picture! My friends have always been very sweet.

My best friend was a total bridezilla.  She and her husband are originally from the NY area, now live in London, and the wedding was in Italy (in a location which is a 4 hour drive away from the nearest airport that has direct flights from NY, and can't really be reached by train).  

I was her maid of honor.  She sent an email out to all of her bridesmaids and me 6 months before the wedding telling us that her shower would be on such and such day at her parents' house, and would be a tea.  She emailed us a few days later and told us that her bachelorette party would be on such and such weekend (Mother's Day weekend) in Las Vegas, and we would be staying at the Wynn.  She did this even though her sisters (who were 2 of the 5 bridesmaids) wouldn't be able to make it because of finances/exams.  There were 5 of us going total -- when I asked her how many rooms we needed to book (because I wasn't sure who had told her they were going) she told me three -- one for her, and the other four of us could stay 2 to a room.  When we were in Vegas, we had to get cabanas at the pool every day because her fiance didn't want her out on lounge chairs with the commoners hitting on her, but she made us all chip in for two of the days (her fiance paid for one of the days -- I think the only reason why the rest of us went along with it is because we had the false impression that he was paying for all of the days)  I have like 900 other stories related to the shower and bachelorette party, but I'll spare you.

On the wedding day itself, she was pretty well behaved except for two things.  One, we were all getting ready at the resort where the reception was.  This was a very small coastal town, and the church was down a long dirt road and then down a steep hill from the resort.  Her dress was huge.  I was given the task of carrying the back of the dress as she walked down to the church from the resort.  And we wore heels for this for the pictures.  I dared misstep at one point and got yelled at.  Then after the 90 minute Italian language ceremony (in a sweltering hot church, and we were standing the whole time but we had to wear cashmere sweaters to cover our shoulders), they had arborio rice thrown at them as they left the church.  They got pelted, and a ton of it got stuck in her hair.  She totally snapped at me "DON'T RUIN MY HAIR!" when I tried to take some pieces out of her hair. 

I'm going to DD this later, btw. 

 

 

 

Not really a bridezilla, but it's the best I've got.  The bride was being an absolute b!tch to the her sister/MOH.  I found out later, it was b/c the bride caught sis and the groom...   Yeah, that marriage didn't last long.  

Dr.Bean:

Not really a bridezilla, but it's the best I've got.  The bride was being an absolute b!tch to the her sister/MOH.  I found out later, it was b/c the bride caught sis and the groom...   Yeah, that marriage didn't last long.  

WTF! You mean that after catching the sis and the groom, the bride still went through with the wedding? That is crazy to me.

alisha243:

Dr.Bean:

Not really a bridezilla, but it's the best I've got.  The bride was being an absolute b!tch to the her sister/MOH.  I found out later, it was b/c the bride caught sis and the groom...   Yeah, that marriage didn't last long.  

WTF! You mean that after catching the sis and the groom, the bride still went through with the wedding? That is crazy to me.

Yep, but that family was soooo dysfunctional.  MOB was mad because she couldn't bring her boyfriend (who happened to be the bride's ex-boyfriend/baby daddy.  No lie!  Don't know how they explained to Jr. why Daddy sleeps in Grandma's bed!)

My cousin's wife THREW the top layer of her wedding cake at her caterer.  I can't remember what she didn't like about it, but it must have been something!

I was the only BM in my then-best friend's wedding (her sister was her MOH). Apparently I didn't live up to her expectations because she completely stopped talking to me after the wedding.  She wouldn't return my calls or e-mails.  And after I took 4 days off work to travel to her wedding in another state (her parent's hometown), she didn't invite me to the second reception she had close to where we live (thrown for friends).

Finally, months later she wrote me a letter detailing why she was upset with me.  And you know what?  It was so lame.  Nothing I did was intentional or even a big deal and the fact that she didn't even give me a chance to apologize and that she cut me out of her second reception...and life...stung too much.  I never bothered to respond and we never spoke again.  Actually, 7 years or so later we ran in to each other at a mutual friend's party.  Her DH was being a dumbass and she and I along with my DH chatted amicably.  But that was that.

It wasn't so much that she was a bridezilla at the time, but more like just a crappy friend overall. 

But I learned from this that I cannot live up to every one's expectations all the time.  All I can do is do the best I can do and if I make a mistake, apologize and try to make it right.  But I no longer expend energy trying to live up to "frenemies'" unrealistic expectations, or try to cajole out of people why they are upset.  If they cannot be adult enough to say, "What you did hurt me," or "I need you to do this," but would rather take a passive aggressive approach and expect me to read their minds, I'm better off without them.

 

My DH is the catering manager at a pretty nice venue, and has between 2 and 5 weddings every weekend.  You would think he would come home with tons of Bridezilla stories, but he doesn't.  It's the FAMILIES of the couples who are the true horrors to the vendors/staff/management.

He has had a sister of the bride get in his face and yell that she hated him (my DH) because the guests started sitting down during the cocktail hour.  The family wanted the guests to mingle and (gasp!) they were actually starting to find their seats.  You have to understand that my DH is the most non-assuming, mild-mannered quiet guy.  No one "hates" my DH.

The worst stories come from the brides/families who think they can control every move that their guests make. "I don't want people sitting while we do our first dance." "I want people to talk to each other." "I want everyone to be HERE at this exact moment." Wedding guests are going to do what they are going to do, period.

The SOB who yelled at DH later realized what a drunk a$$ she was, and nicely sent home all of the left-over liquor as an apology. So it all worked out in the end!