I never go into religious places for the same reason I never go to football games - I dont like them, they dont like me, and everyone is better off if I am not there lol.
But my brother is getting married, and its a Hindu wedding because his fiance is a Hindu. I have been told that it will be in a temple, and I have to bow to some religious person or other when I enter. I will absolutely not do this. So now I have to work out the best thing to do - go and not bow, go and not enter the building, or not go.
Luckily, my brother is a DNA scientist and an atheist too, so he will understand, but its still lame.
I had this debate last night in the Church over this part of the baptism where the family is supposed to stand around FIL and support him '100% in his Catholic endeavors" or something to that effect. I didn't want to do it - I mean, i can support my FIL as a person without supporting his choice to join a church whose views/teachings I strongly disagree with. I also felt it would be rude of me to do when I didn't mean it. I have enough respect for the religion that i didn't want to participate in an important part of the ceremony when I didnt believe it. Does that make sense?
I asked DH what to do, and he wanted me to stand up there, but I still felt like i shouldn't, not only to be true to MY beliefs but because i was lying to the Priest.
In the end, I stood up there, but didn't recite any lines.
Yeah, this stuff is tricky. I have no wish to cause offense - at least, I wont go into someone else's place of worship and be offensive. But if I did bow it would be a mockery, and offensive to me as well, so thats no good. What use is fake piousness to anyone? And yet, its my brothers big day, and I don't want to do even the slightest thing to mess with it. For a whlie I just said I wouldn't go to any religious building, but then my stepfather died, and he was religious, so I had to go to his church funeral.
That made me so mad, the whole service was basically "we are sad Brian has left us, but isn't the blood of Jesus totally awesome y'all? Wow, we really love Jesus!" I wanted to punch the priest in the face, and am still furious about it even now. In an hour service, about 5 minutes was dedicated to my stepfathers life, the rest was bullsh!t efforts to convince the very obvious non believers that Jesus was don dada.