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04-11-2012 at 9:57 AM
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What is WRONG with people?! 4/11/2012 edition

04-10-2012 at 7:22 PM
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I can't orgasm from sex and I'm actually glad. It's so much better when he isn't worrying about lasting long enough for me. I just take care of my business while we're cuddling afterwards.




I'm almost speechless at this.
 
04-11-2012 at 10:01 AM
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At least she doesn't know what she is missing?
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04-11-2012 at 10:07 AM
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Uh, has she never heard of "ladies first"?
 
04-11-2012 at 10:08 AM
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She has said before that her FI used to be super bad in bed because he watched a lot of porn and insisted that since this was the way it's done in porn, it must be the right way whether she likes it or not.  This is apparently him being a way better lover.

:|

 
04-11-2012 at 10:13 AM
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I bet she can orgasm from sex, she's just never going to have the opportunity. 

I'm assuming these two are very young.  Is she his first?
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04-11-2012 at 10:15 AM
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I think they were each other's firsts.
 
04-11-2012 at 10:16 AM
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ReturnOfKuus:

She has said before that her FI used to be super bad in bed because he watched a lot of porn and insisted that since this was the way it's done in porn, it must be the right way whether she likes it or not.  This is apparently him being a way better lover.

:|

This gets the bigger Indifferent from me that her original post!  Oy.
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04-11-2012 at 10:22 AM
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I can't orgasm from sex either, but I find it more depressing than anything. Also, what smock said. Ladies first! I always get taken care of at least once prior to the actual sexing.

I will never understand why people are so willing to accept such lame effort from their SOs, especially when it comes to something as important as sex.

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04-11-2012 at 10:22 AM
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WTF!
 
04-11-2012 at 10:23 AM
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Nothing like good communication to improve your sex life.
I agree with everything that muddled said. You should listen to her. -ESDReturns 
04-11-2012 at 10:25 AM
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ReturnOfKuus:

She has said before that her FI used to be super bad in bed because he watched a lot of porn and insisted that since this was the way it's done in porn, it must be the right way whether she likes it or not.  This is apparently him being a way better lover.

:|

Wow.

 
04-11-2012 at 10:27 AM
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BowiesInSpace:

I bet she can orgasm from sex, she's just never going to have the opportunity. 

I'm assuming these two are very young.  Is she his first?

ITA. 

And just wow at the porn thing.

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04-11-2012 at 10:33 AM
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That is jacked. I love that he gets his first and that he doesn't do anything for her period. He's lazy, selfish and anasshole. Wanna bet those traits don't end at the bedroom?


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04-11-2012 at 10:39 AM
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04-11-2012 at 10:46 AM
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This seems like her rationalizing it by saying, no really, it's so much BETTER! Like when people claim that diet tastes better, or vegetarians say that fake meat tastes better. It doesn't. You just need to make yourself think that or you'll be at an all you can eat bacon buffet by sundown.
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04-11-2012 at 10:47 AM
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Broc, you're so right.  Her response:

"I don't see what's wrong with that. I am physically incapable of orgasming from sex or anything anyone does that isn't a vibrator. I have struggled with orgasms a lot and it caused me a lot of stress and put pressure on both of us. It took a lot of time for me to come to terms with the limitations of my body. My guy is a great lover. He tries really hard to please me and sex with him FANTASTIC. I am always incredibly satisfied afterwards, even though I don't orgasm. He always encourages me to do whatever I can to orgasm, which in my case is using a vibrator. I love having sex with him and I love getting him off during sex.

I don't see what's so weird about caring about his pleasure and being happy with my body the way it is. A good lover is not defined by an orgasm every time. I am more than happy with our sex life."

 
 
04-11-2012 at 11:04 AM
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ReturnOfKuus:

Broc, you're so right.  Her response:

"I don't see what's wrong with that. I am physically incapable of orgasming from sex or anything anyone does that isn't a vibrator. I have struggled with orgasms a lot and it caused me a lot of stress and put pressure on both of us. It took a lot of time for me to come to terms with the limitations of my body. My guy is a great lover. He tries really hard to please me and sex with him FANTASTIC. I am always incredibly satisfied afterwards, even though I don't orgasm. He always encourages me to do whatever I can to orgasm, which in my case is using a vibrator. I love having sex with him and I love getting him off during sex.

I don't see what's so weird about caring about his pleasure and being happy with my body the way it is. A good lover is not defined by an orgasm every time. I am more than happy with our sex life."

 

 

WTFFFFFFFFFFFF  how can he be a good lover when he doesn't even try to do anything for her?? And she's just resigned to it. I guess they're well matched then. *smh*  
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04-11-2012 at 11:08 AM
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She's not that into him.

I still want to know what he's like outside of the sheets.


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04-11-2012 at 11:21 AM
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The thing that kills me is that these dudes can't even like, spend $20 on a vibrator and use that on her for a few minutes.  You can probably even play angry birds if you're bored, as long as you keep the sound down.  You don't have to move your hand or pay attention as long as it's in the general area.  And THAT is too much work? f*ck yourself, literally.
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04-11-2012 at 11:27 AM
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I don't think it's all his fault, Broc. Something tells me that she feels just as uncomfortable mixing the two. I would be happy to be proven wrong, but I feel like she is just as much to blame in this as he is.

 

 
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04-11-2012 at 11:29 AM
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hindsight's_a_biotch:

She's not that into him.

I still want to know what he's like outside of the sheets.

I'm willing to bet you are right - the exact same. This behavior can't just be happening in this area only.

 
04-11-2012 at 11:35 AM
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ReturnOfKuus:
I don't see what's so weird about caring about his pleasure and being happy with my body the way it is. A good lover is not defined by an orgasm every time. I am more than happy with our sex life."

Wrong!

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04-11-2012 at 11:58 AM
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Motzie:

ReturnOfKuus:
I don't see what's so weird about caring about his pleasure and being happy with my body the way it is. A good lover is not defined by an orgasm every time. I am more than happy with our sex life."

Wrong!

Well she's kind of right.  I can be defined by a number every time.  Hint: That number is ALWAYS greater than 0.
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04-12-2012 at 2:49 PM
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broccolitree:
This seems like her rationalizing it by saying, no really, it's so much BETTER! Like when people claim that diet tastes better, or vegetarians say that fake meat tastes better. It doesn't. You just need to make yourself think that or you'll be at an all you can eat bacon buffet by sundown.

Holly sh*t that sounds so damn good.

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