It does not sound like you have good communication with each other at all --- and yes, something more is going on here.
Your daughter seems to have NO material needs at this time. IMO, spending time with someone is one of the best ways to show love. And right now your DH does not seem interested in spending time with you --- and that IS a problem.
I would see a counselor by yourself if necessary. When one party changes, it changes the whole dynamic of the relation ship.