When we lived in apartment, we had upstairs neighbor listen to R Kelly and old school sexy music on weekend nights, it didn't bother me because I liked the music, he played it loud for months then moved out. Afterward, a couple moved in and their bed was above ours, they had loud sex every morning and night, my husband made comments to me that he was jealous of their frequent love making, lol.  I wanted to complain but it would be awkward so I kept shut, their mattress squeaked and their noises were loud but thankfully, they only lasted 15 mins, it was just disturbing at 5am daily, especially on weekends when I like to sleep in. We met them later on and I was shocked to see they were in their late 50s !

When DH and I were renting, we were the awful neighbors. We enjoy having fun all the time and if we were both off from work the next day, we would be up till 4-5AM drinking and dancing. Boy, the good ol days. We were the only young couple in the building and our neighbors never complained. They would just make comments like they remember when they were young. I guess we were lucky.

 

Call the cops. They will ring the bell and tell him to cut it out...and if he does it again, the cops. They'll probably get blasted with a summons for a noise ordinance.

Ugh...my sympathies. If you had your druthers, I'll bet you'd give him quite the jam session at 5 am in return. Taste of his own medicine...I'd give him the 1812 Ovature...at full blast:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=G4h7NGMz2RI

And if Tchikovsky at 5 am doesn't float yer boat, try Led Zep's John Bonham's drum solo, LIVE:

 http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KlZsfTZ3EDI

 

We've had this happen to us too. One morning we were so pissed off that my husband went knocking on our neighbors door at 6:00 a.m. He told them that if we are awake, they need to be awake as well because we listened to them and their friends party the whole night.  

Good luck with your rude neighbors and I hope your new move will be a better one!  

NurseRobinson:

When DH and I were renting, we were the awful neighbors. We enjoy having fun all the time and if we were both off from work the next day, we would be up till 4-5AM drinking and dancing. Boy, the good ol days. We were the only young couple in the building and our neighbors never complained. They would just make comments like they remember when they were young. I guess we were lucky.

You sound like selfish jerks who have no respect for other people.

zitiqueen:

NurseRobinson:

When DH and I were renting, we were the awful neighbors. We enjoy having fun all the time and if we were both off from work the next day, we would be up till 4-5AM drinking and dancing. Boy, the good ol days. We were the only young couple in the building and our neighbors never complained. They would just make comments like they remember when they were young. I guess we were lucky.

You sound like selfish jerks who have no respect for other people.

Call it as you feel, but we are just not that type of couple to complain about what our neighbors are doing. I understand that others may be light sleepers, but we just don't care.

We lived in a different apatment complex after college and stop partying as we used to and we had a neighbor right next door to us that partied like we used to and it just didn't bother us. When we go to sleep, we are sleep and we could care less if our neighbors party till the morning.

I will add that if our neighbors ever complained, we would have cooled it down, but like I said, no one ever said anything and we were like grandchildren to our former neighbors, so they didn't mind.

Just one more thing, where I'm from, we wouldn't dare call the police because the neighbor's music is too loud. That's just insane to me. There are more important things that I want the police to focus on other than loud music, You know like...... maybe crime.

NurseRobinson:

Just one more thing, where I'm from, we wouldn't dare call the police because the neighbor's music is too loud. That's just insane to me. There are more important things that I want the police to focus on other than loud music, You know like...... maybe crime.

I agree with this, I would only call the police for a real emergency. If loud music is the issue and it's on a daily basis, I would MAYBE tell the landlord, not police. 

NurseRobinson:

zitiqueen:

NurseRobinson:

When DH and I were renting, we were the awful neighbors. We enjoy having fun all the time and if we were both off from work the next day, we would be up till 4-5AM drinking and dancing. Boy, the good ol days. We were the only young couple in the building and our neighbors never complained. They would just make comments like they remember when they were young. I guess we were lucky.

You sound like selfish jerks who have no respect for other people.

Call it as you feel, but we are just not that type of couple to complain about what our neighbors are doing. I understand that others may be light sleepers, but we just don't care.

We lived in a different apatment complex after college and stop partying as we used to and we had a neighbor right next door to us that partied like we used to and it just didn't bother us. When we go to sleep, we are sleep and we could care less if our neighbors party till the morning.

I will add that if our neighbors ever complained, we would have cooled it down, but like I said, no one ever said anything and we were like grandchildren to our former neighbors, so they didn't mind.

Well, at least you admit to being selfish jerks who have no respect for other people.

 Not so much awful neighbors but AWFUL landlady. We live in the Caribbean, she doesn't live on the same island. She told us when anything breaks, it's up to us OUT of our pocket to fix it (WHAT?!). The place we rent is older and all wood, so there's terminate damage...she hasn't done a darn thing about it. We have been here a year and decided to renew one more year (hey, it does have its perks, like being in a forest with no neighbors). So what did she do?! UP our rent. The reasons being that for lawn care and pest control. Well, she hires someone to do lawn maybe once every 3 months and we have about 9 feral cats outside that kill any rodents. What is she talking about?! Keep in mind she has 2 other properties which she has yet rent out. So we're moving. Now she'll just have 3 empty properties. 

NurseRobinson:

zitiqueen:

NurseRobinson:

When DH and I were renting, we were the awful neighbors. We enjoy having fun all the time and if we were both off from work the next day, we would be up till 4-5AM drinking and dancing. Boy, the good ol days. We were the only young couple in the building and our neighbors never complained. They would just make comments like they remember when they were young. I guess we were lucky.

You sound like selfish jerks who have no respect for other people.

Call it as you feel, but we are just not that type of couple to complain about what our neighbors are doing. I understand that others may be light sleepers, but we just don't care.

We lived in a different apatment complex after college and stop partying as we used to and we had a neighbor right next door to us that partied like we used to and it just didn't bother us. When we go to sleep, we are sleep and we could care less if our neighbors party till the morning.

I will add that if our neighbors ever complained, we would have cooled it down, but like I said, no one ever said anything and we were like grandchildren to our former neighbors, so they didn't mind.

Thank God I don't live next to you.  Selfish behavior like that bleeds over into all areas of your life.  Blech.

 

I've lived in apartments as a renter since I graduated college in 2002.  Two different major east coast cities.  I've consistently found that the worst neighbors were college students or those living in college-heavy areas.  In Boston and Philly I've managed to find apartment buildings full of young professionals with young children or recently married.  Minor problems here and there, but mostly respectful neighbors.  In our current place, we have nice thick walls and rarely hear anyone. 

I'm sorry you have such disrespectful neighbors.  

zitiqueen:

NurseRobinson:

zitiqueen:

NurseRobinson:

When DH and I were renting, we were the awful neighbors. We enjoy having fun all the time and if we were both off from work the next day, we would be up till 4-5AM drinking and dancing. Boy, the good ol days. We were the only young couple in the building and our neighbors never complained. They would just make comments like they remember when they were young. I guess we were lucky.

You sound like selfish jerks who have no respect for other people.

Call it as you feel, but we are just not that type of couple to complain about what our neighbors are doing. I understand that others may be light sleepers, but we just don't care.

We lived in a different apatment complex after college and stop partying as we used to and we had a neighbor right next door to us that partied like we used to and it just didn't bother us. When we go to sleep, we are sleep and we could care less if our neighbors party till the morning.

I will add that if our neighbors ever complained, we would have cooled it down, but like I said, no one ever said anything and we were like grandchildren to our former neighbors, so they didn't mind.

Well, at least you admit to being selfish jerks who have no respect for other people.

You must be slow. Selfish, I am not. I'm a nurse and I give give give with a smile on my face everyday at work because I love helping people. Irl, I have never been called selfish. I am just the opposite. Like I said, where I am from, nobody cares about loud music. If a neighbor told us that our music was disturbing, we would have cooled it down. What don't you understand about that? Get over yourself. You're name calling like you're Mother Theresa and you never did anything "selfish" in your late teens early 20's.(Like I stated, DH were young when we were partying. We are trying to start a family now, so partying is not so much what we do now) It's music. Lighten up. Where are you from and what kind of boring life do you have that loud music gets you so upset? All I say is tell the neighbor if it's so disturbing, but where I lived, even if DH and I weren't playing our music, it was music in the streets at all hours of the night. We must come from different sides of the street so just leave it like that. Agree to disagree.

 

NurseRobinson:

zitiqueen:

NurseRobinson:

zitiqueen:

NurseRobinson:

When DH and I were renting, we were the awful neighbors. We enjoy having fun all the time and if we were both off from work the next day, we would be up till 4-5AM drinking and dancing. Boy, the good ol days. We were the only young couple in the building and our neighbors never complained. They would just make comments like they remember when they were young. I guess we were lucky.

You sound like selfish jerks who have no respect for other people.

Call it as you feel, but we are just not that type of couple to complain about what our neighbors are doing. I understand that others may be light sleepers, but we just don't care.

We lived in a different apatment complex after college and stop partying as we used to and we had a neighbor right next door to us that partied like we used to and it just didn't bother us. When we go to sleep, we are sleep and we could care less if our neighbors party till the morning.

I will add that if our neighbors ever complained, we would have cooled it down, but like I said, no one ever said anything and we were like grandchildren to our former neighbors, so they didn't mind.

Well, at least you admit to being selfish jerks who have no respect for other people.

You must be slow. Selfish, I am not. I'm a nurse and I give give give with a smile on my face everyday at work because I love helping people. Irl, I have never been called selfish. I am just the opposite. Like I said, where I am from, nobody cares about loud music. If a neighbor told us that our music was disturbing, we would have cooled it down. What don't you understand about that? Get over yourself. You're name calling like you're Mother Theresa and you never did anything "selfish" in your late teens early 20's.(Like I stated, DH were young when we were partying. We are trying to start a family now, so partying is not so much what we do now) It's music. Lighten up. Where are you from and what kind of boring life do you have that loud music gets you so upset? All I say is tell the neighbor if it's so disturbing, but where I lived, even if DH and I weren't playing our music, it was music in the streets at all hours of the night. We must come from different sides of the street so just leave it like that. Agree to disagree.

 

You really are acting like an idiot.  We can agree to disagree about that, but anyone who says "We like our music loud, we're all in this building together, but anyone who's a light sleeper can suck it!" is not a giving or thoughtful person.  You sound self-absorbed and quite juvenile.  If you can't see that then, well, again... thank God I don't live near you. 

Hiding behind your late teens and early twenties doesn't make it any better.  Maturity comes with age.  Maturity is looking back on what you did and saying "Yeah, not the best."  Maturity is NOT coming on here, spouting off that you are NURSE and therefore so GIVING but saying it's okay to be disrespectful to your neighbors and anyone who doesn't understand hates music and is a boring stick in the mud.  Nope - some of work and need to sleep.  My god - you are so self-centered.

 

Joy2611:

NurseRobinson:

zitiqueen:

NurseRobinson:

When DH and I were renting, we were the awful neighbors. We enjoy having fun all the time and if we were both off from work the next day, we would be up till 4-5AM drinking and dancing. Boy, the good ol days. We were the only young couple in the building and our neighbors never complained. They would just make comments like they remember when they were young. I guess we were lucky.

You sound like selfish jerks who have no respect for other people.

Call it as you feel, but we are just not that type of couple to complain about what our neighbors are doing. I understand that others may be light sleepers, but we just don't care.

We lived in a different apatment complex after college and stop partying as we used to and we had a neighbor right next door to us that partied like we used to and it just didn't bother us. When we go to sleep, we are sleep and we could care less if our neighbors party till the morning.

I will add that if our neighbors ever complained, we would have cooled it down, but like I said, no one ever said anything and we were like grandchildren to our former neighbors, so they didn't mind.

Thank God I don't live next to you.  Selfish behavior like that bleeds over into all areas of your life.  Blech.

 

I've lived in apartments as a renter since I graduated college in 2002.  Two different major east coast cities.  I've consistently found that the worst neighbors were college students or those living in college-heavy areas.  In Boston and Philly I've managed to find apartment buildings full of young professionals with young children or recently married.  Minor problems here and there, but mostly respectful neighbors.  In our current place, we have nice thick walls and rarely hear anyone. 

I'm sorry you have such disrespectful neighbors.  

So, you graduated college in 2002, which makes you somthing around 32 years old, and yet you make a comment that suggest that I must be selfish in other areas of my life because when I was younger my DH and I played loud music in our apartment and our neighbors never complained?

I'm done with this loud music crap. It's just not a big deal to me. If it bothers you, ask the neighbor to turn it down. End of conversation.

 

Before H and I got married we rented a townhouse for 4 years so we went through a lot of neighbors next to us.  We were near a pharmacy school but it was also a good family area so there was a good mix of who would rent there. One of our neighbors were students and they were by far the worse out of anyone that lived by us.  They would have parties every other weekend and smoke weed in the basement.  The walls in the basement were pretty thin so we would smell weed pretty frequently and hear their loud music.  Luckily, they didn't even last the full year they had their lease.  We wondered if someone else may have complained and if they got kicked out.  It's soo nice to own a house now!! 

I agree with NurseR. My H and I also partied and were not so quiet when we were both off on the same night. We would be up late at night, playing Wii, drinking or whatever we wanted. We were renting our place just like anyone else. We even met some more neighbors than we wouldn't have met if we were up. (We liked to spend the summer nights on the back patio) Our neighbors were awesome in this way, since they would join or not say anything.

Before you get on your high horse- I can say that I am not selfish or insensitive. NurseR and I rented out the apt/townhome/whatever just like anyone else and we can do what we want in the house we are renting/paying for.

If our neighbors said anything we would of course stop but if they didn't have a problem why not have fun in life and enjoy the time you have- yes- i'll say it- while you're young!

 

I can admit to being loud when i was a young renter. And I can admit that it was selfish and immature. And good luck with your ttc-ing. I'm sure you won't mind neighbors playing loud music at all when you just got your baby to go to sleep for the first time all night. Because where you're from, no one cares about loud music.

I'd notify teh landlord. IF the LL does nothing, I'd call the LL again DURING The noise and wake him and see how he likes it! 

It sucks, but if you aren't willing to talk to the guy face to face your only option is to stick it out for a few more days until you move. Best of luck in the new place!

Joy2611:

NurseRobinson:

zitiqueen:

NurseRobinson:

zitiqueen:

NurseRobinson:

When DH and I were renting, we were the awful neighbors. We enjoy having fun all the time and if we were both off from work the next day, we would be up till 4-5AM drinking and dancing. Boy, the good ol days. We were the only young couple in the building and our neighbors never complained. They would just make comments like they remember when they were young. I guess we were lucky.

You sound like selfish jerks who have no respect for other people.

Call it as you feel, but we are just not that type of couple to complain about what our neighbors are doing. I understand that others may be light sleepers, but we just don't care.

We lived in a different apatment complex after college and stop partying as we used to and we had a neighbor right next door to us that partied like we used to and it just didn't bother us. When we go to sleep, we are sleep and we could care less if our neighbors party till the morning.

I will add that if our neighbors ever complained, we would have cooled it down, but like I said, no one ever said anything and we were like grandchildren to our former neighbors, so they didn't mind.

Well, at least you admit to being selfish jerks who have no respect for other people.

You must be slow. Selfish, I am not. I'm a nurse and I give give give with a smile on my face everyday at work because I love helping people. Irl, I have never been called selfish. I am just the opposite. Like I said, where I am from, nobody cares about loud music. If a neighbor told us that our music was disturbing, we would have cooled it down. What don't you understand about that? Get over yourself. You're name calling like you're Mother Theresa and you never did anything "selfish" in your late teens early 20's.(Like I stated, DH were young when we were partying. We are trying to start a family now, so partying is not so much what we do now) It's music. Lighten up. Where are you from and what kind of boring life do you have that loud music gets you so upset? All I say is tell the neighbor if it's so disturbing, but where I lived, even if DH and I weren't playing our music, it was music in the streets at all hours of the night. We must come from different sides of the street so just leave it like that. Agree to disagree.

 

You really are acting like an idiot.  We can agree to disagree about that, but anyone who says "We like our music loud, we're all in this building together, but anyone who's a light sleeper can suck it!" is not a giving or thoughtful person.  You sound self-absorbed and quite juvenile.  If you can't see that then, well, again... thank God I don't live near you. 

Hiding behind your late teens and early twenties doesn't make it any better.  Maturity comes with age.  Maturity is looking back on what you did and saying "Yeah, not the best."  Maturity is NOT coming on here, spouting off that you are NURSE and therefore so GIVING but saying it's okay to be disrespectful to your neighbors and anyone who doesn't understand hates music and is a boring stick in the mud.  Nope - some of work and need to sleep.  My god - you are so self-centered.

 

Oh my goodness! It just amazes me how loud neighbors is such a huge deal. That's all! You need to take a chill pill. I have said over and over that if my neighbors would have let me know that my music was a problem, then I would have turned it down, but where I used to live, everyone played music loud so I didn't see it as a problem.

I also made a point that calling the police for loud music is crazy imo.

 I never said that if you are a light sleeper then oh well. I said if you are a light sleeper and the music bothers you, then just tell your neighbor to cool it down and that's it. I just don't believe that just because a neighbor plays loud music is a selfish person in general. The act itself may be selfish at the time, yes, but I don't believe it is as serious as you are seeming to take it. The neighbor may not realize that it bothers you, so just tell them and that's it. If they continue to do it, then that's another thing.

And yes, age has a lot to do with it because at the age I am now, I wouldn't do a lot of things that I once did as a teenager or early 20's.

As far as me saying I'm a nurse and it's ok to play loud music, again, I never said it was ok. I said that it never bothered me, but if it bothers someone else, then go tell the neighbor and don't call the police.

I need sleep also. I work 12 hour shifts dear and loud music does not bother me ok? I sleep right through it! If it bothers you or anyone else, JUST TELL THE NEIGHBOR!!!! That's it! Stop reading so deep into my post.

 

linzica:

I can admit to being loud when i was a young renter. And I can admit that it was selfish and immature. And good luck with your ttc-ing. I'm sure you won't mind neighbors playing loud music at all when you just got your baby to go to sleep for the first time all night. Because where you're from, no one cares about loud music.

Good one

I was waiting for someone to notice my siggy and mention that. Actually, if I was TTC and moved somewhere known for that type of atmosphere, then even though it would be annoying if the music disturbed my sleeping baby, I wouldn't go crazy over it. DH and I are just those type of people. We don't care what other people do in their own apartment. Even if I did just put my baby to sleep, I could not in a million years go knocking on my neighbor's door upset because their music woke my baby. (not saying that if you do that it is something wrong with it) I would be mad, but I would deal with it in my own place. I amd just a go with the flow type of person.  And again, I will say, where we WERE from, no one cared about loud music.

However, before we decided to try for a baby, we bought a house in an area not known for young partiers.

jaschick04:

I agree with NurseR. My H and I also partied and were not so quiet when we were both off on the same night. We would be up late at night, playing Wii, drinking or whatever we wanted. We were renting our place just like anyone else. We even met some more neighbors than we wouldn't have met if we were up. (We liked to spend the summer nights on the back patio) Our neighbors were awesome in this way, since they would join or not say anything.

Before you get on your high horse- I can say that I am not selfish or insensitive. NurseR and I rented out the apt/townhome/whatever just like anyone else and we can do what we want in the house we are renting/paying for.

If our neighbors said anything we would of course stop but if they didn't have a problem why not have fun in life and enjoy the time you have- yes- i'll say it- while you're young!

 

I lived in a really crappy apartment complex one time. The couple that lived upstairs used to fight all the time. She was a stripper and would be home around 2:30AM each night. Then the yelling, the door slamming, the hitting walls. It was so loud we could hear what was being said. He wanted her to finish college and get a new job, she wanted to continue dancing because she liked the attention.  One day, we're sitting on our patio, having coffee, and a TV and PS and clothes started flying from their 3rd floor apt to the snow covered ground.She threw him out I guess. And then when he actually left, she yelled at him in the parking lot that he didn't have permission to leave her. huh

 The lady that lived across the hall from us was a drug dealer. She had about 4 people living with her in the one bedroom apt. She would often have big parties, meth, cocaine, etc. Even invited the teenagers in the complex so they would at least be experimenting in a controlled environment. Then someone got stabbed. We called the cops every weekend and she eventually went to jail.

We bought out that lease and got the hell out of there. What a learning experience! (I was 19 and from a small sheltered town)

 

 

NurseRobinson:

Call it as you feel, but we are just not that type of couple to complain about what our neighbors are doing. I understand that others may be light sleepers, but we just don't care.

 

Your selfish attitude is right there in black and white.  I'm not sure what else there is to say on this topic so... I bid you good effing bye.

Joy2611:

NurseRobinson:

Call it as you feel, but we are just not that type of couple to complain about what our neighbors are doing. I understand that others may be light sleepers, but we just don't care.

 

Your selfish attitude is right there in black and white.  I'm not sure what else there is to say on this topic so... I bid you good effing bye.

My wording was not the best. When I stated "but we just don't care", I was saying that we don't care about others playing loud music, not that we don't care if they are light sleepers. If they are light sleepers and the music bothers them and they tell me, I would turn the music down and I have said that over and over again, but you just don't get it.

So yes, good flucking bye!

Where FI and I used to live we talked to the landlords. Finally he said just called the police. Turns out they were selling drugs upstairs. While they had several small kids as well. They finally were kicked out when they both couldn't afford it anymore. And worse people moved in. We just finally had to leave. But the landlord was super nice.