To me, a spouse is first priority. And who is he on the phone with for all these hours?
Does this have something to do with his employment/ with business? If not, I'd start to wonder just what's so bloody important that he has to spend so much time talking to whoever this is.
When he is with you all he does is yakk on the phone? That's rude indeed and uncalled for -- he is with you and he's on the phone and talking away?? --- and yeah, what's so important that he has to be in constant contact with this person?
You're out with him on a date night and all you get is the favor of his presence? Man.
And what's up with not making time for his wife when she comes home? Doesn't say hello? what are you running there - a flophouse? And again, how rude of him. He can't even manage a hello???
You need to get Mr. Sociable off the phone and you need to speak to him about the problems you are having. Do this with no interruptions and make sure that the solution is one that is satisfactory to you both.
His behavior needs modification immediately. This nonsense with the constant phone bullshit needs to end immediately and he needs to treat you like a wife and partner effective immediately. No deadlines, no nothin': immediately.
That you've already spoken to him and nothing's happened isn't a good sign.It's a poor relection of his character and shows me that he doesn't give 2 figs for you and your marriage to him.
Talk to him again and if he can't make sure your happiness comes first and that the problem is solved to your satisfaction tells me plenty about him.
I do not wish to be the forebeaer of bad news but I'd wonder what's so important that the person at the end takes precedence over his wife. I wonder if his little phone friend is another woman/man and that he's up to no good....for your sake, get down to the bottom of this.
And if it turns out this guy's having an affair, show him the door and get your marriage annulled -- once a cheater, always a cheater and you have only been married since March. What this is is fraud and this is somebody who is not ready for a lifelong committment with anyone.
It's highly doubtful that this phone pal he's got is a new behavior acquired after you and he married..
Chances are that all of this was going on before you were married to him. All the more reason why this marriage should be annulled, if it turns out that he's having an affair with whoever this is --- and even if it is *only* a relationship where it's a *friendship* an affair is an affair, whether or not it involves sex. GL.
PS: Doesn't this guy work? Or does he work a night shift or have some other type of job where his hours are not 9 to 5? (If he's not working/works another type of job that is not 9 to 5, why is he on the couch when you gets home instead of doing something constructive?)