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In my opinion, the one who is not yet ready for a baby trumps the one who is. It's a big decision and everyone needs to be on the same page. He's not ready yet. And that's ok-it is reasonable to want to wait a bit after marriage to have a baby. He's not asking for a crazy amount of time. Why don't you have a talk with him? Don't be accusatory or get upset. Just let him know you respect his opinion, but you want to make sure he hasn't changed his mind about having a fourth child period. See what his concerns are: money, time, etc. Four kids is a lot, maybe he is concerned with how you will handle it, or maybe he is anxious about starting all over again with another kid. Regardless, you want him up be able to tell you how he feels.
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