I am reading this post because I am in a similar situation. My husband and I have been married for 6 months after dating for many years. We don't have any kids. He does have a stressful job. He tends to self medicate by drinking and smoking cigarettes with our neighbors.
I typically initiate any sex we have now and it is usually only 1 a month. I don't want to pester him or come on too strong, but I need at least 1 a week. I have told him this several times. I just try to let the issue go a lot because I don't want to hurt his ego.
When we first started dating, we had sex every day. Even two years into our relationship, it was 4-5 times a week.
We are both in our 30s now, so maybe age has something to do with it too. I was going to try to put something special on for him and excite him tonight but when he walked in he glanced at me and went straight to bed.
So frustrating. We do love each other and get along well usually. We just fought today in part because of this.